It’s the season for heart-shaped boxes, roses, and chocolate-covered everything. As such, you may be a little nervous about whether your gift is going to hit the nail on the head or be the nail in your coffin this year. Whether you are a last-minute gifter or a January 1st shopper, you may need to have a back-up plan for your valentine in case things go south with your gift.
Can Great Sex Make Up For A Bad Valentine’s Day Gift?
This question can be tricky, as the answer truly depends on your partner’s love language. If your partner is most receptive to touch, then the answer is most likely yes. Under the right circumstances and in the right environment, even those with partners who prefer quality time may be successful going the physical route.
However, if your partner’s love language is spoken through gift-giving, quality time, acts of service, or words of affirmation, you may be missing the mark with just sex. So how can you best prepare for the worst on the 14th?
Let’s take a closer look at some of valentine’s make up options for those who are most receptive to the other love languages.
- Quality Time- If your partner is most receptive to quality time, consider planning a special evening for another night. Instead of running to the drug store in hopes to snag some valentines “leftovers”, simply make plans for a romantic, intimate evening for the two of you. Get creative and keep your partner’s interests at the forefront of your plans. Take a hike, make your favorite dinner together, or plan a game night together. Focus on activities that allow you to connect with your partner in an atmosphere that he or she genuinely enjoys.
- Words of Affirmation- This love language is all about the language, and we don’t mean the body kind! Those with partners preferring strong words of affirmation should opt for a more sentimental, poetic approach. Everyone loves a good Valentine’s Day card, but words of affirmation partners are probably going to need more than a Hallmark card with your name signed at the bottom to fully receive your expression of love. Instead, write a personal note expressing your feelings, write a poem or song, or make a list of all the things you love about your partner. Writing these down adds an additional layer of thoughtfulness to your expression. It communicates to your partner that you took the time to sit down and put your feelings on paper rather than just rattling them off from the top of your head.
- Acts of Service- For this love language, you’re going to want to physically do something for your partner. The most successful back-up plans will be those that take the partner’s preferences, pet peeves, and schedule all into consideration. For example, you know your partner has been stressed about keeping the house tidy, she had an awful day at work, and is now upset that your valentine’s gift did not deliver. In this scenario, you could draw her a nice warm bath, pour her a glass of her favorite wine, and light candles around a clean bathroom to help her relax. While she unwinds, you tidy up around the house, making sure to complete all her least favorite chores.
- Gift Giving- As you might have guessed, those with partners who feel most loved when they receive gifts will be most receptive to a thoughtful present. If you are worried that your gift or plan A for Valentine’s day will be inadequate, you will want to have a back-up gift. If all else fails and you decide to go the physical route, consider taking a more selfless approach and give to your partner without expecting reciprocation.
If sex is going to be your “gift”, you want to make sure your partner knows that he or she is your priority over your own satisfaction. If you are concerned about performing sexually on Valentine’s Day, we recommend coming in for a consultation. We offer a variety of treatment options for sexual dysfunction and can help you feel and perform your best this year. For more information or to schedule an appointment, contact Balanced Health Medical Center today.